How Well Do You Know Your $exual Self?

1- I feel uncertain or inexperienced when it comes to my pleasure.

2- I feel barriers or blocks in my life against pleasure.

3- I have uncomfortable/unsettled/mixed feelings when thinking about sex, solo or partnered.

4- I feel uncomfortable exploring the sexual side of myself.

5- It's challenging for me to just receive pleasure. It's much easier to give pleasure to a lover/partner instead. 

6- I judge my bodily appearance when with a lover/partner.

7- I'm open to sensually/sexually exploring all parts of my body that I desire to.

8- I feel embodied and connected to my senses during sexual intimacy.

9- I am somewhat stuck in a rut with my solo sex life. I desire sexual experimentation and variety/novelty in my solo sex life, but am not currently engaging in it.

10- I am comfortable with asking for sexual needs to be met with lovers

(Needs are non-negotiable, such as communication and consent).

11- I am comfortable with asking for my sexual WANTS to be met by my lovers. 

(Sexual needs are non-negotiable such as communication and consent, sexual wants are desires that go beyond needs, such as exploration and play ).

12- Starting conversations with lovers about sexual exploration and experimentation can be challenging for me.

13- I love exploring the “unconventional” aspects of my sexuality. Such as sexual taboos, kinks, and BDSM explorations.

Remember: what’s “kinky” for one person might be very vanilla to another, “kinky” is in the eye of the beholder.

14- It’s easy for me to honor and acknowledge the sacred intersections of sexuality and spirituality.